6 SHIFTS FOR SPIRITUAL WOMEN TO OVERCOME INDECISION & EMBRACE CONFIDENCE
We second-guess ourselves because we’ve been taught that other people’s opinions matter more than our own. This early conditioning leaves us feeling uneasy about making decisions on our own, especially when it comes to love. From a young age, we learn to seek validation from others, which causes us to doubt our inner wisdom and guidance. Every choice becomes a risk of being wrong or unlovable, and we hesitate, caught in the trap of self-doubt. This constant uncertainty can be paralyzing, preventing us from stepping confidently into our own power. Recognizing that these beliefs are not inherent truths but learned behaviors is the first step toward reclaiming your decision-making and embracing the clarity and confidence that comes from within.
The downsides to this include becoming dependent on partners to make decisions for you. This creates a power imbalance where you take the position of the subordinate instead of an equal partner in the relationship. When you rely on someone else to decide for you, you not only silence your own inner voice but also miss out on the opportunity to fully express your desires and needs. I know how it feels to doubt your own judgment—like you’re not capable of making the right choices on your own. But remember, in a truly healthy relationship, both partners should feel empowered and valued. Embracing your ability to decide for yourself not only restores your confidence but also sets the stage for balanced, authentic connections where you stand as an equal. Every step you take toward trusting your own decisions is a step toward reclaiming your power and creating relationships that truly honor who you are.
Perhaps for you it plays out in your life like this: you have always had a hard time making decisions for yourself, even when you’re faced with choosing what you’re going to eat for dinner. When your date asks where you’d like to go, you hesitate, worried that your own preferences might not be good enough or could upset the balance of the relationship.
Before you know it, you’re adjusting your behavior just to keep them close. You end up agreeing to places and plans that don’t excite you, simply because you’re afraid that speaking up will risk losing their attention or approval. Over time, the joy of making a decision for yourself gets replaced by a constant, nagging fear of making the “wrong” choice. This not only leaves you feeling disempowered but also creates a pattern where your true desires take a back seat to the need for external validation.
Unfortunately all this does is, slowly make you lose sight of who you are, trading your authentic self for the security of pleasing someone else. The more you rely on their input, the more your own voice gets muted—and the more disconnected you feel from what you truly want. Imagine how liberating it would be to trust your own intuition, knowing that your decisions matter and reflect your unique self. When you learn to honor your preferences and lean into the power of your own choices, you begin to create space for genuine, fulfilling relationships where you’re celebrated for who you are, not just for what you choose to do to keep someone close.
It's OK to feel overwhelmed with decision fatigue. We all have moments when even the simplest choices—what to wear, what to eat, or which movie to watch—feel like monumental tasks. In our fast-paced world, especially when you're navigating the complexities of relationships and self-discovery, it's completely natural to feel drained by the constant barrage of decisions. This stage isn't a sign of weakness or failure; it's simply part of the journey towards reclaiming your power and finding your authentic voice. Allow yourself to experience these moments without judgment, knowing that you're not alone—and that every step, even the challenging ones, is leading you toward greater clarity, confidence, and inner peace.
It’s true that making decisions as a people pleaser can be extremely difficult. However, if we can learn how to overcome indecision, we can embrace confidence. When we let go of the need for constant external approval, trust our inner guidance, and commit to making choices that truly reflect our authentic selves, it is entirely possible to unlock a life filled with clarity and unstoppable self-assurance.
Keep reading for 6 tips to overcome indecision so you can start embracing confidence today.
STUCK IN INDECISION & PROCRASTINATION
The biggest downside of not overcoming indecision is you’ll stay stuck in bad relationships and situationships that don’t serve you. Instead of making choices that honor your true self, the fear of making the wrong decision keeps you locked in a cycle of procrastination and emotional limbo. Over time, this indecision not only leaves you feeling miserable and unfulfilled, but it also creates a deep disconnect from the life you truly deserve. When you continuously settle for less than what you’re meant to have, you lose sight of your own worth and potential, leading to an uncomfortable sense of misalignment in every area of your life. Remember, every moment spent in uncertainty is a missed opportunity to step into relationships and experiences that nourish your soul and empower you to thrive.
LOOK WITHIN TO OVERCOME INDECISION & EMBRACE CONFIDENCE
Although you struggle with indecision, you have the potential to embrace confidence in your love life and make decisions that truly align with who you are. When you look within and tap into your inner wisdom, you begin to trust that your intuition is a powerful guide. Instead of being overwhelmed by doubts and second-guessing, you learn to see every decision—no matter how small—as an opportunity to honor your true self. Over time, this shift from seeking external validation to trusting your own heart transforms how you approach relationships and life in general. You’ll start to feel more secure in your choices, knowing that they reflect your genuine desires and values. Embracing this inner clarity not only paves the way for a more confident love life, but it also empowers you to attract relationships that resonate with your soul.
6 SHIFTS FOR SPIRITUAL WOMEN TO OVERCOME INDECISION & EMBRACE CONFIDENCE
The key to achieving confidence is to start looking to yourself when making decisions. Before, you might have felt overwhelmed by uncertainty—constantly second-guessing your choices, seeking validation from others, and letting fear hold you back from living authentically. But once you begin to trust your inner voice and honor your own intuition, everything changes. You move from a state of indecision and self-doubt to one where every decision you make is a reflection of your true self.
Take a look at these 6 shifts to overcome indecision and to see how you can achieve confidence in your love life.
You Constantly Seek Reassurance
One of the reasons you struggle with fear of abandonment is because past experiences have taught you that love is uncertain, inconsistent, or something you have to earn. This is especially true if you grew up with caregivers who were unpredictable in how they showed love and connection—sometimes present, sometimes distant, leaving you unsure of where you stood. When love feels unstable early on, it’s natural to develop a deep fear of losing it, causing you to cling to relationships in an attempt to create the security you never had. But instead of bringing you closer to love, this fear often keeps you stuck in anxious patterns, constantly searching for reassurance and struggling to fully trust that love can stay.
The solution: Trust Your Inner Voice
When you do this, you stop operating from the fear that love is something rare, fragile, or at risk of disappearing. Instead of clinging to connections out of desperation, you begin to trust that love is abundant and always flowing toward you. You no longer feel the need to chase, overextend, or settle for breadcrumbs just to keep someone around. Instead, you step into the belief that the right love will meet you where you are—not because you begged for it, but because you deserve it. This shift allows you to relax in relationships, knowing that your worth isn’t dependent on one person staying. And when you embody that kind of confidence? You naturally attract partners who are just as secure, available, and ready to love you in the way you’ve always deserved.
You Are Afraid to Make the Wrong Choice
It makes complete sense that you're feeling anxious about love and relationships when you don’t feel emotionally secure within yourself. When your sense of safety depends on someone else’s presence, attention, or reassurance, it’s easy to feel unsettled the moment there’s distance—whether that’s a delayed text, a shift in their energy, or simply time apart. Instead of trusting that love is stable, your mind starts racing with worst-case scenarios, making you feel on edge and reactive. You might find yourself needing constant validation, overthinking their words, or even adjusting your behavior to keep them interested. But the truth is, real security in love doesn’t come from someone else proving they won’t leave—it comes from you knowing that, no matter what happens, you will be okay. Until you build that inner emotional safety, love will always feel fragile, and relationships will feel like something you have to manage rather than something you can trust.
The solution: Stop Thinking That Every Decision Is the End Of The World
Try making a habit of checking in with yourself first instead of looking for another person's reassurance. When anxiety creeps in and you feel the urge to reach out for validation, pause and ask yourself, "What am I actually feeling right now? What do I need in this moment?" This small but powerful shift helps you build confidence in your ability to meet your own emotional needs. Instead of relying on someone else to make you feel secure, you start learning to comfort yourself, regulate your emotions, and trust that you are safe—whether or not someone is immediately available to reassure you. Over time, this practice rewires your mind to look inward first, teaching you that your sense of stability isn’t dependent on someone else’s presence, words, or actions. The more you strengthen this self-trust, the more love begins to feel like a natural extension of your own security, rather than something you constantly have to seek out or hold onto for dear life.
Settling for Unfulfilling Relationships
One of the reasons you struggle with overgiving and pleasing people in love is because you have learned from past experiences that if you do more, they’ll stay. Maybe in the past, love felt conditional—something you had to earn rather than something freely given. So, you pour everything into your relationships, making yourself indispensable, constantly anticipating their needs, and putting yourself last, all in the hope that your effort will guarantee security. But instead of feeling valued and loved in return, you end up feeling drained, unseen, and taken for granted. The problem isn’t that you care too much—it’s that you’ve been taught that love is about proving your worth rather than receiving it as you are. And the longer this pattern continues, the more it convinces you that you have to keep doing it to be worthy of love.
The solution: Embrace Change
When you join InnerGlow Growth, you’ll learn how to stop overextending yourself in love and start feeling comfortable with receiving. If you’ve spent your whole life believing that love is something you have to earn, then slowing down and allowing yourself to simply receive might feel uncomfortable at first. But here’s the truth—healthy love is reciprocal. You shouldn’t have to prove your worth through constant effort, self-sacrifice, or always being the one who gives more. In InnerGlow Growth, you’ll learn how to shift from people-pleasing to letting love in without guilt, fear, or the urge to overcompensate. When you finally allow yourself to receive, you’ll realize that love feels so much better when it’s freely given—not something you have to chase or work overtime to keep.
Emotional Exhaustion
It makes complete sense that you're feeling deep disappointment because you ignored the red flags of the person you thought was for you. It's heartbreaking when you finally wake up and realize that what you saw in this person was nothing more than an illusion—a fraud of the potential you desperately wanted to believe in. In chasing an idealized version of who they might be, you invested your hopes in a future that never truly existed, overlooking the subtle signs that something was off. That disillusionment can sting, leaving you to question not only the relationship but also your own judgment.
The solution: Use Mindfulness Before Making Decisions
When you do this you will have much better results in your love life. Instead of dismissing those early red flags or subtle signals, start listening and honoring what comes up. It might feel lonely at first, as you adjust to making choices based on what you truly perceive rather than what you hope to see. But as you begin to trust those intuitive nudges, you'll notice that your love life transforms for the better. You’ll start attracting relationships that are more genuine, respectful, and aligned with your true self. In the long run, by embracing your inner wisdom and acting on it, you pave the way for a love that not only lasts but truly nurtures you from the inside out.
You Don’t Know What You Want
One of the reasons you struggle with indecision is because you don’t know what you want. The times you thought that you knew what you wanted may have been filled with heartbreak, unmet expectations, and disappointment. These experiences can make you second-guess your past choices, leaving you unsure of what you should genuinely seek in a partner—and ultimately fueling your confusion about how to move forward.
The solution: Figure Out Who You Really Are
Begin by asking yourself key questions about your values, personal goals, and emotional needs. Journaling, meditation, or simply quiet reflection can help you tune out external pressures and reconnect with your own desires. The goal is to identify what truly resonates with your heart, rather than settling for what someone else thinks is best for you. When you have a clear sense of who you are and what you want, it becomes far easier to choose a partner and life path aligned with your true self.
Loss Of Authenticity
It makes complete sense that you’re feeling like you don't really know who you are. Especially if you’ve been allowing others to make big decisions on your behalf. Over time, constantly deferring to external opinions can erode your sense of self, leaving you unclear about what you truly want or how to show up in the world.
The solution: Stop Suppressing Your True Desires
Try letting your light shine– even just a little bit. Decorate your space in a way that reflects your style, explore hobbies or activities you’ve always been drawn to, and practice expressing your honest thoughts—even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Little by little, these steps will reconnect you with your core desires and help you stand confidently in who you are.
Achieving genuine confidence in your love life can be unbelievably liberating.
You absolutely can overcome indecision and step into the self-assured woman you were always meant to be.
And InnerGlow Growth can help you do just that—offering the guidance, support, and practical tools you need to finally trust your intuition, honor your deepest desires, and create relationships that truly light you up.
If you're ready to overcome indecision and embrace confidence, join the waitlist today!