HOW ONE SPIRITUAL WOMAN HEALED FROM SELF-DISTRUST AND PAST EXPLOITATION
Self-distrust makes us easy targets for exploitation. When we don't trust ourselves, we lose touch with our intuition—that inner voice that guides and protects us in daily life and relationships. Fear takes the wheel, allowing the opinions and demands of others to overpower the voice that truly serves our highest good. When we struggle to listen to ourselves, others notice. They can sense our vulnerability, knowing we are more likely to be influenced or taken advantage of.
When we live in self-distrust, it impacts every aspect of our lives. As I mentioned earlier, people can easily pick up on our insecurities, making us more vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Self-distrust is rooted in fear, which is a low-vibrational emotion. According to Dr. David Hawkins’ scale of consciousness, fear sits on the lower end, and when we operate from that frequency, we naturally attract others who are also vibrating at that level. Unfortunately, people at lower vibrations are more likely to exploit our insecurities. In contrast, those who vibrate higher wouldn’t engage in manipulative behavior, especially in a romantic relationship.
For a recent client, it played out in her life like this. She found herself trapped in a toxic marriage, convinced her husband was a narcissist. Deep down, she knew from the beginning that something wasn’t right, but she didn’t trust her intuition. Instead of listening to that inner voice, she second-guessed herself, talking herself into believing that the red flags she saw early on were just temporary issues that he would eventually overcome. She hoped that with time, he would change for the better.
Eventually, she wound up in a place where that change never came. As the years passed, the emotional strain worsened, leaving her feeling more disconnected from herself and her inner guidance. Her self-distrust had led her down a path where she felt stuck, unworthy, and powerless to make a change. It wasn't until she reached out for help that she realized how deeply her lack of trust in herself had shaped not only her marriage but her entire sense of self-worth.
But the truth is, many spiritual women struggle with self-distrust, especially early on in their spiritual journey. This is often rooted in the way we’re raised, particularly in families that hold rigid religious beliefs. From a young age, we’re taught to obey, to follow external rules and authorities, and to suppress our own inner voice. Religion can sometimes send the message that trusting ourselves is wrong, that we should place more faith in doctrine, leaders, or tradition than in our own inner knowing. This conditioning can leave us feeling disconnected from the very intuition that is meant to guide and protect us.
In many cases, this mindset is reinforced by strict child-rearing practices. Parents may, with good intentions, teach obedience and compliance as virtues, emphasizing the importance of pleasing others or living up to certain expectations. This can stifle our ability to develop trust in our own thoughts and feelings. Over time, societal norms add to this pressure, often encouraging women to be more agreeable, less assertive, and more concerned with what others think. The result is a deeply ingrained belief that our inner wisdom isn’t valid or reliable.
For spiritual women, this conflict can be especially challenging. We are taught that spiritual growth requires us to connect with something higher, yet how can we do that if we can’t even trust the voice within us?
It’s true that self-distrust can make it easier for love interests to exploit us. However, when we see others overcome something similar, it can inspire us to make the changes we need to achieve a renewed sense of confidence and emotional freedom. When we take similar steps it is entirely possible to rebuild trust in yourself, so you are no longer vulnerable to manipulation or toxic relationships.
Keep reading to see how one spiritual woman started seeing renewed sense of confidence and emotional freedom today.
STUCK IN SELF-DISTRUST AND EXPLOITATION
Before working with me, my customer's life looked like her second-guessing her decisions and relying on her husband’s opinion. Every choice seemed uncertain, and instead of trusting her intuition, she found herself seeking validation from him, even when deep down she knew what she wanted. This pattern of self-distrust left her feeling powerless, like she had lost touch with her own voice and sense of self. It wasn’t just about the decisions— it was about the constant fear of getting it wrong.
Because she constantly second-guessed herself and relied on her husband’s opinions, it became all too easy for him to gaslight her. He would twist situations, making her feel like her concerns were invalid or that she was overreacting. Every time she questioned something or tried to assert herself, he would convince her that she was being unreasonable, further deepening her self-distrust. Over time, this gaslighting kept her stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, unable to trust her own perceptions. She started to believe that maybe he was right and that she couldn’t rely on her own judgment, which only made her feel more trapped in the toxic dynamic.
The gaslighting only deepened her self-distrust, making it harder for her to see things clearly. Every time she tried to trust her intuition or address the red flags in the relationship, her husband would manipulate the situation, leaving her feeling confused and questioning her own reality. Over time, she convinced herself that maybe she was imagining things or being too sensitive. This made it incredibly difficult for her to recognize just how unhealthy the relationship really was. For years, she overlooked the red flags, believing that maybe things would change, or worse, that she was the problem. The constant doubt kept her stuck, unable to break free from the toxic cycle she was living in.
Right before she reached out to schedule a coaching session, everything came crashing down. She had caught her husband in a lie about where he had been, and her intuition had been screaming at her that something wasn’t right. When she confronted him, he gaslighted her once again, telling her she was overreacting and imagining things. For a moment, she almost believed him—after all, that had been the pattern for so long. But this time was different. She later found out that her intuition had been right all along. The realization hit her hard. She felt the familiar spiral of doubt, confusion, and frustration, but this time it was stronger. She couldn’t ignore it anymore. This was the breaking point—she knew she couldn’t keep living in this cycle of lies and manipulation, constantly questioning herself.
When this happened the client felt terrible and she realized that she had hit her breaking point. She didn’t want to continue to live a life of being exploited anymore because she didn’t trust her intuition. She felt terrible—emotionally drained, anxious, and completely disconnected from who she truly was. In that moment, she realized she couldn't keep living like this, being taken advantage of because she didn’t trust her own intuition. The fear and self-doubt that had kept her stuck were no longer worth the pain. She knew deep down that something had to change; she deserved to trust herself again and live a life where her inner voice was honored, not silenced. This was her wake-up call—she was ready to break free from the cycle of exploitation and reclaim her power.
The client decided to schedule a session because she knew that if she didn’t stop this cycle of manipulation, she would continue to feel unfulfilled and weighted down. She knew that something had to give, and it had to be NOW. She could no longer ignore the heavy toll it was taking on her emotional and spiritual well-being. Deep down, she realized that if she didn’t take action, she’d remain stuck, repeating the same patterns, and never truly reclaim her sense of self. She was tired of being in a relationship where she couldn’t trust herself, and she was ready to break free. She wasn’t willing to wait any longer—she wanted to take back control of her life.
When the client attended the first coaching session she expressed how foolish she felt that she was under this spell of exploitation and couldn’t see the way out for a long time. She felt too ashamed to talk to her friends and family about this because she didn’t want to be judged by them. She was hard on herself, blaming herself for not trusting her intuition sooner. What made it even harder was the shame she carried. She had been carrying this burden in silence, feeling isolated and stuck in a relationship that was breaking her spirit. In that session, she finally felt safe enough to admit how lost she had been, and that was the first step toward finding herself again.
By the time the client left the session she felt uplifted and hopeful. The weight she had been carrying around for years started to feel lighter. For the first time, she could see a path forward that didn’t involve second-guessing herself or living in constant fear of being manipulated. She felt uplifted, like a fog had cleared and she could finally breathe again. There was a sense of relief in knowing that she wasn’t alone in this anymore, and that there were real, tangible steps she could take to rebuild her self-trust and reclaim her life. She walked away from the session feeling empowered, ready to take control of her future, and more confident that she could create the life and love she truly deserved. It was the beginning of her journey toward healing and stepping into her power.
BREAKING FREE FROM SELF-DISTRUST AND EXPLOITATION
Before working with me, my client’s life looked like her second-guessing her decisions and relying on her husband’s opinion. But when we sat down to work together we started to peel back the layers of what had gotten her to lose her autonomy and being taken advantage of. We focused on her relationship with herself. I asked her what she truly wanted her relationship with herself to look like going forward, and it became clear that she longed to rebuild the self-trust she had lost over the years. She wanted to reconnect with her intuition and finally feel confident in her own voice again, without relying on someone else’s validation.
In every session, I used my psychic guidance to help her tap into deeper insights and connect with her own inner knowing. This intuitive approach gave her clarity where she once felt stuck, helping her see the bigger picture and trust the wisdom that was already within her. We explored her past experiences, the patterns of self-distrust that had formed, and how they were playing out in her life now. Each session was about breaking down those emotional barriers and giving her the tools to reconnect with her intuition, reclaim her power, and make decisions with confidence. It was a journey, but with every step, she felt more empowered, more aligned, and more in control of her life.
We often discussed these topics of her thought process, unraveling the ways self-distrust had shaped her beliefs about herself and her relationships. We explored her inner dialogue and how she had been conditioned to silence her intuition. A big part of our work was rebuilding that relationship with herself—learning to trust her intuition and honor her inner voice. We also spent time discussing how her love life could look different by shifting her energy and focusing on raising her vibration. Together, we worked through the shadow aspects of herself, confronting the fears, insecurities, and emotional baggage that had been holding her back. The shadow work was challenging, but it was also where the real breakthroughs happened. By addressing these hidden parts of herself and releasing the negative patterns, she began to see how much more aligned, confident, and empowered her future relationships could be. Each session was a powerful combination of self-reflection, healing, and vibrational alignment, all designed to help her create a life filled with self-trust, love, and personal empowerment.
The client attended coaching sessions weekly and started to feel a renewed sense of confidence and emotional freedom. She was able to rebuild trust in herself and was no longer vulnerable to manipulation and toxic relationships. As she started listening to her intuition again, she realized how much stronger and more grounded she felt. The constant second-guessing and vulnerability to manipulation faded away, and she became more resilient in recognizing toxic patterns—both in herself and in others. She no longer felt like she needed to rely on her husband’s validation or opinions. Empowered by her progress, she made the brave decision to leave her husband and start a new chapter of her life as a single woman, free from the cycle of self-distrust and exploitation. With her renewed inner strength, she felt ready to rebuild her life on her own terms, confident that she would never fall back into those old patterns again.
The client knew she was ready to end our work together because she reached a point of true confidence and emotional freedom. She had come so far from the woman who once doubted every decision and felt stuck in self-distrust. Now, she could clearly hear and trust her intuition, and she no longer needed external validation to feel secure in her choices. She felt strong enough to navigate life’s challenges on her own, with a deep sense of self-trust guiding her every step. As we approached the end of our coaching journey, she expressed how empowered she felt to make decisions that were aligned with her highest good. She had broken free from the cycle of self-doubt and was living in a place of self-assurance and emotional clarity. It was clear that she had reclaimed her power, and she felt confident that she could continue her journey without needing the same level of support. The termination process wasn’t an ending—it was a celebration of her growth and a new beginning for the life she was ready to create on her own.
YOU CAN OVERCOME SELF-DISTRUST AND BREAK FREE FROM EXPLOITATION
Although you struggle with being vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation in love, you have the potential to overcome it.
Now that you've seen what is possible for other clients, there is a possibility for you to also rebuild trust in yourself and feel emotionally free in your love life.
You have the opportunity to make this change and see a renewed sense of confidence.
And through my client’s emotional journey, you’ve seen how she transformed from feeling trapped in self-doubt and exploitation to reclaiming her power and finding confidence in herself. If you’re ready to stop people-pleasing and break free from toxic patterns in your love life, my membership, InnerGlow Growth, is designed for spiritual women just like you. It offers the exact steps my client took to heal from self-distrust and create a love life where her intuition and self-worth lead the way.
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